Posted in Living Life, Random Thoughts

Historically miserable?

Trying my darnedest to be happy this Thanksgiving.

How does that work? How can we when the year has been so difficult? So trying, so scary, and for many, it’s been so sad, how can we stay happy? What do we cling to, and more importantly, why? Is it survival? Are we merely surviving, and happiness is an essential substance we require to properly exist? And what of those who are unable to scout out or gather any happiness for themselves? How can we help, and what does that helplessness do to all of us?

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Blackout Tuesday – time to listen

I live in Philadelphia which, as you know, has had a series of protests, rioting, and looting.

There has been a city-wide curfew for days now. I was working inside a building while it was being boarded up by management and on my way home I saw my bustling city quiet and empty. Many businesses were boarded up either out of protection or because they had windows already busted. Last night I was woken by explosions across the city and the hashtag “phillyexplosions” was trending on Twitter at 2am.

On social media, I am seeing a lot of people sad and/or outraged but their triggers are sometimes different.

People are angry at looters.
People are angry at cops.
People are angry with government.
And some people are frightened as well.

A lot of people are feeling frightened by the looting and rioting. People are afraid their homes will be targeted if they have an American flag. They are fearing for their children who are yound and afraid. They are preparing to protect themselves and their neighbors by any means necessary.

Yes, it’s been an upsetting few days for many who have lost property, been targeted, and felt unsafe in their own homes.

I’m sorry if the looters and rioters have scared you, they scare me too. I’m sorry you feel unsafe in your own home or feel targeted for something like the American Flag. Imagine being targeted for something you can’t take down like say,  oh- the color of your skin.  And not for just a few days, but for a few hundred years. Are you scared? Maybe you should be. I am certainly not condoning rioting or looting, I think it’s terrible, but I think it’s a terrible side effect of something larger.  Here’s what I mean;

Rioting & Looting are very much like vomiting and diarrhea: alone they are stupid and ugly and no one needs to be told how terrible they are.  But oftentimes they are symptoms of a much larger health problem.  And this world is very unhealthy. Keep treating the symptoms if ya want, but I do not recommend ignoring the deeper issues at hand.

And let’s not even get into the part about how these people afraid of looting have every right and government support to protect themselves. That may not feel like a luxury but it is because not every American can protect themselves without getting in trouble. There have been too many videos of authorities allowing people to assemble with weapons to protect merchandise but being violent against people assembling to protest.

So here comes the “not are cops are bad” people”.

Not all cops are bad – sure, but the ones who are, do not receive any reprimanding. They get slapped on the wrist.  However, when there’s a bad black man, he dies.  Black men  who are maybe bad are dead. Black people who some think are bad-ish are dead.  Black people who “look bad” are dead. And black people who catch the wrong cop on the wrong day are dead.

So while I agree that not all cops are bad, I’m not terribly concerned with their well being as a whole. I know cops die in the line of duty and I fear for them and for those I know personally who serve. But they chose that life, that job, that risk, that stigma. God bless them.

Black people did not choose to be hated.

So when people worry about “all cops” being grouped together (not unlike a prejudice against skin color) or about the violence and selfishness of looters instead of the violence of humans against humans- authorities against civilians – I begin to worry.

A part of me is frightened and confused about where the world is right now.  We have a pandemic going on, innocent lives being slaughtered in the streets, and white supremacy seems to be rampant within our own political system. Yes I did just say that because that’s what it seems like and if I’m wrong; prove it to me.

Prove it to me.

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The History Of White Supremacy in America

Prove it to me.

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Racial Inequality in American Public Schools

Prove it to me with change.

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Breonna Taylor shooting

I also try to remember that right now I am a female who’s currently wearing pants which once upon a time was unheard of. I’m a female who is employed and owns property of her own. So I know the world has made some progress in some areas and that makes me hopeful.

Unfortunately, sometimes you do not see progress unless push really does come to shove.  And when you compare the shove of looters to the shove of that man’s knee on the neck of an innocent man I know which one outrages me more.

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That’s why when people see only the riots and wonder “how will they make a change.” To that I say, “well it got your attention”. And I ask: What will you do now that you’ve been emotionally affected? Will you choose to hate the looters, or try to understand the protesters? Will you be upset about commerce and economy, or will you mourn with the families who have lost loved ones? Will you read the news from today or remember history?

Time is a problem. Humans live in bubbles. And those bubbles are getting smaller. We struggle to understand Darwin’s “theory” (and let’s remember it is just that: a theory) because we cannot grasp the concept of time required for evolution to take place. Our great-grandparents lived through plagues and wars and told us to expect more but we separate ourselves from history and think we are different. People respected the Coronavirus until it became boring, then social distancing lessoned. People see rioters and have already forgotten that days ago an innocent man was killed in public. How do I know he was innocent? I know because this is America and you are “innocent until proven guilty”. That is why the theater killer and the church killer are still alive. Two white boys who were proud of their separate actions and neither was harmed when taken down.  One even tried to booby trap the police, but he’s still alive.

People cannot seem to go beyond the small circle of their own brains. They seem incapable of reaching beyond themselves to see hints of truth, let alone the harsh, blunt, painful truth. Perhaps they are too frightened to search.

So today’s blog is a challenge to listen. Listening is so important and so many people are emotionally and mentally deaf. Listen to history. Listen to the survivors of hate. Listen to the survivors of injustice. Listen to more than just the latest news brief, more than just convenient conspiracy theories. Dive deeper, learn more, try to heal yourself. Because if you are only worried about the looters & do not understand why they exist, you are broken. If you are only worried about supporting or hating the cops, the system has succeeded in creating another blind subject. You are more than today’s news. You are more than your own life. You are a product of generations, of evolution, of humankind. It is a vast and complicated history that plays host to some very ugly, horrific truths. But until we are ALL willing to listen, and learn, we will never be ready to evolve, and change.

And change, is clearly what we need. The old ways have not been successful, today’s methods are not successful, help humanity evolve into a better place, and broaden your mind.

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“Come up with a better way”

If that is too difficult for you, seek some assistance. We all need help sometimes. But do try. Do think. Do evolve.

 
 
“When we talk about systemic racism, we’re not just talking about Black lives killed by police with no accountability. We’re not just talking about Black lives killed by COVID-19. We’re not just talking about a third of Black children in our country living in poverty, and millions of Black kids going to totally inadequate schools. We’re not just talking about Black women having a maternal death rate three times the rate of white women, and Black families owning 1/10th the wealth of white families. Instead, we are talking about a system of pervasive racism that impacts every aspect of our lives. This has got to end. We need equity for Black people, for Brown people, and for all who are marginalized and made disposable in a system and an economy that treats millions of people as unworthy of the basic decency of human respect.”
 
-Bernie Sanders

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New Year, New Decade, Same Me.

 

“Be sure to poop before midnight so you don’t carry your old sh*+  with you into the new year.”

A bit much? Perhaps, but really there are just some things we can’t control. It’s a New Year AND a New Decade and everyone is filled with motivation for self-improvement and success, but what of those who are not or cannot? Some things aren’t as easily shed, some pasts, some habits, some hurts, are not as simple to dispose of. Continue reading “New Year, New Decade, Same Me.”

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New Year’s Eve

 

This post is from last year. For reasons I will not go into, I have not been actively reading or writing any blogs. But I’ve updated this site and wanted to repost this particular entry from last year. I hope you enjoy. 

Today is the eve of a new year. We, together, say goodbye to the previous 12 months we have decidedly named one year. We measure time in years, months, hours, minutes and less. How do we measure that time spent? Is there a way to measure your moments, your events, your worth? Some will say that it’s just another year and there is no difference for them. This is understandable, yet something has changed somewhere and we must all admit this fact. Continue reading “New Year’s Eve”

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“What can I do about my dog’s breath?”

(See below for actual answer – I ramble first)

Oh blogging world. I have yet to be dedicated or have an actual theme. I haven’t had time to read most of the blogs I follow let alone write one myself. I’d probably care more if anyone else cared, but I don’t believe anyone does.

Do you?

Hello?

That’s right, no one is reading this and that’s ok. It’ll be here when someone wants to. That’s how blogs work; tons of random thoughts, opinions, ideas posted to the interwebs for anyone to read, or everyone to ignore.

I’m ok with this. I need writing practice that’s not for Picture Books. It feels like ages since I’ve written anything other than Picture Books. And if you don’t know – it’s hard!!

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So here’s the deal. I groom dogs. I train dogs. I live, eat & breath dogs. No I don’t. That’s gross. But I do breath a lot of dog hair, that is true and it is gross. Just lots of dogs in my line of work.
To that end, I have had multiple questions about dog breath and teeth care recently and my answer is always the same so I thought I’d share my product review here for anyone who passes out when their dog breaths on them.

START HERE FOR ACTUAL INFORMATION ABOUT PRODUCT.

OXYFRESH

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I found this product about 19 years ago when I had my first dog, Indiana Jones. (“I named the dog Indiana.”) It wasn’t that I couldn’t brush her teeth, she was amazing and loved to be groomed. She was a Staffordshire Terrier who came to work and we’d sometimes have to put her on the grooming table and pretend to give her a haircut so she wouldn’t feel left out. What’s my point?  I used this product because it worked, not because I couldn’t do better with brushing.
Vets used to commend me on brushing Indiana’s teeth because they always looked so great. (Psst- I stopped brushing regularly once I saw how great this product worked – jokes on them)

Fast forward to my current dog. I stop buying Oxyfresh because it used to be exclusive to pet professionals and I had left the business for a while. New dog Scarlett Grey had missing teeth (malnutrition as a pup before I had her) and some plaque that vets ALWAYS point out to me. Oh, the shame. I started brushing her teeth. She too loved it. But then one day I realized her breath stunk anyway. Just a little, but enough that I didn’t like it.

Then I find that Oxyfresh has been rebranded and readily available on Amazon (yes I shop from the devil) and we’ve been good ever since. I still brush her teeth, absolutely recommend it if you can! But this certainly helps out in between.

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Scarlett Grey loves her water

PRODUCT USE:

It says to add a capful per/liter of water. I have a gallon of water I keep in the fridge for Scarlett. I do the math, add the Oxyfresh, and keep her water bowl filled with this special water. Without it, (ie – on vacation ) she’ll have stink breath in about 5-7 days. Which I can remedy in about 2 days by giving her the good water.

The vets stopped telling me her teeth needed to be brushed. I still brush her teeth cause she loves it. She loves all attention from me actually. Even when I squish her head with hugs.

So that’s my blog post – a product review of Oxyfresh from someone who has worked with dogs for over 27 years and has used it on my own two dogs with satisfaction. I have nothing to do with Oxyfresh or Amazon. I’m just a girl and her dog. Take it or leave it. That’s my answer to your question.

Happy Blogging.

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I love my dog.